Why Don’t People Go To Church Anymore?


Feeling disillusioned with the consumeristic approach in churches? Discover how a shift towards authentic discipleship can rejuvenate the faith experience of your church.


I recently came across this Tweet (or X, or whatever we’re calling it now).

I responded with…

I’ve written on and taught pastors, church leaders, and churches about this topic for nearly three years. I’ve focused primarily on adjusting our discipleship and engagement pathways in light of cultural Christianity’s death.

FYI: Here’s a post on a new ministry model if you’re interested.

But I love how Justin put it: People “no longer find it socially advantageous to pretend” any longer.

The Social Advantages of Church Attendance

I assume this is not a new issue. Yet, it is a rampant issue that’s grown exponentially in the past few years (or decades).

Churches have placated the consumeristic tendencies of their communities for quite some time. And this approach worked on several fronts. Consumable Christianity attracted people and led many to Jesus. This “attractional” approach filled church buildings and small groups. But this methodology also fueled poor behaviors and expectations of Jesus, the church, and pastors.

As the saying goes, What you win people with, you win them to.

Not a New Problem, Though

I guess this is comforting: Jesus faced this same issue. We read multiple accounts of Jesus experiencing frustration with crowds due to their consumeristic desires for food, healing, or a miracle. Hence, his “eat my flesh and drink my blood” crowd-thinning sermon.

While we could evaluate how we as churches got here (and throw stones), the better question is, “Where should we go from here?”

Perhaps we should do some “crowd thinning” ourselves. Not to intentionally run people off, but we may need to add a little “eat my flesh” stuff back into the mix.

Maybe We Follow Jesus’ Lead?

Or, as many pastors would say: “Preach the full Gospel.”

The Gospel is the “Good News,” but the Good News is not¬†that Christianity makes life easier. Or that church attendance helps with networking. The “Good News” is that salvation is a free gift through faith that cannot be earned.

And with this gift comes a call for sacrifice and surrender. Or as Paul put it in his letter to the Ephesians (Ephesians 4:1), “As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received.”

Salvation is free and costs us nothing, but following Jesus costs us everything. And it’s worth it.

And we should teach both of these faith realities.

It’s the surrender side of the news that, perhaps, we’ve left out of our churches for too long. The more challenging truths are as much part of the Good News as the free gift of eternal life in Christ. If we only teach salvation without surrender, we relegate discipleship to the back corner.

Surrendering The Country Club

If the last two decades have taught us anything (including the pandemic), churches must balance attracting unbelievers and engaging a discipleship pathway of surrender. The whole Gospel requires both. We certainly don’t want to be unattractional. Yet we equally cannot be only attractional. After all, the cross is offensive.

Too many churches have been so engrossed in mimicking culture that we now struggle to separate ourselves from culture. What we win people with, we win people to.

The call to faith in Christ is a call to die to self, not serve ourselves. Let’s all commit to teaching that side of faith along with the free gift of eternal life.